Author: Dr. Ajit Varwandkar
- I should get up early in the morning
- I should do exercise regularly
- I should get a good amount of sleep at night
- I should eat good quality food
- I should meditate every day
- I should speak soft and positive words always
- I should do proper planning
- I should read good books regularly
- I should follow discipline in my routine life
- I should prioritize important works
- I should spend time with family and friends
- I should work hard to achieve my goals
- I should take life easy and avoid stress
Well, how many of the above statements do you agree with? If you subscribe to most of these, this column is for you to read.
Friends, what is common in all the observations stated above?
You are correct if you said – the commonality in all these statements is the word “should”. We all know the dos and don’ts of a successful and happy life. Even after knowing very well that we should eat healthy food, people usually compromise their eating habits. People know that their health demands daily exercise, or it may have unfortunate consequences. Despite the awareness of this need, they do not get into exercise.
The question is, “Why do most of us do, what we know, we must not do?”
The answer is easy, these people are not living a free life. They are prisoners, caged in their respective comfort zones. Why stretch beyond and invite discomfort when you are enjoying the status quo? One can be sure of unhappy consequences when a person is bottlenecked by such a myopic view of life.
If you also have an extensive list of “should” in life, it is time for you to overcome your thought barricades. Start somewhere, but remove the “should” from your thoughts. This is what happens when all ‘shoulds’ are removed from the sentences quoted above:
- I get up early in the morning
- I do exercise regularly
- I get a good amount of sleep at night
- I eat good quality food
- I meditate every day
- I speak soft and positive words always
- I do proper planning
- I read good books regularly
- I follow discipline in my routine life
- I prioritize important works
- I spend time with family and friends
- I work hard to achieve my goals
- I take life easy and avoid stress
Isn’t this a great idea to start working on your shoulds! Begin with one should at a time and rewrite your sentences. It would be advantageous to transform your wish list into your resolves and achievements.
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Dr. Ajit Varwandkar is the Director of myaglakadam.com. He is a leading career counselor and can be contacted on 9826132972 or email him at firstname.lastname@example.org
This column was originally published by the author in The Times of India