Author: Dr. Ajit Varwandkar
Let me begin by asking you a question:
You would have accepted or presented many flower bouquets till now. So, if there are two options: a bunch of wilted flower leaves or a collection of fresh flowers – what attracts you the most? Definitely not the old and dry ones. Right?
Yet another situation here, Laddu went to a recently renovated restaurant.
It was a very famous food joint in the town. Due to some financial problems during covid, the management could not continue the operations.
Eventually, the property got sold to someone else. The new owner had a different business perspective and invested a lot in the interiors and design. Everything changed, including the chef and the kitchen!
Laddu was expecting the same old ecosystem and the similar food taste when he went to that restaurant. However, the new experience was not so engaging. When Laddu paid the bill and was about to step out, the new manager asked him to share his experience and post reviews online.
Laddu gave his frank opinion, which was a setback for the manager. He strongly insisted on getting a five-star rating. He started talking about the glorious past of the restaurant. He pulled out old reviews and shared them with Laddu. He also presented a few celebrity endorsements as proof of their being the best joint in the town.
All this could not change the opinion of Laddu. He said, you may have had a celebrated past, but what matters is my experience in the present. If it is not up to the mark, I can not tell a lie.
Friends, no one is interested in your past except you. It is also a fact that when it comes to personal experience and benefit, people, in general, are ruthless in giving their reviews.
In the parlance of sports, it is said that a player is as good or as bad as their last performance on the field. Beyond a limit, your past glories can not be encashed for eternity. Even the Gods of these games are compelled to retire and resign.
The same applies to all of us – students, professionals et al. If you are a school/college going student, your latest score will reflect your skills and abilities. If you are a professional at work, your performance in the most recent project will determine if your boss fires you or appreciates you.
The message is clear – stop regurgitating your past. Whatever exposures you had in your life to date, good or bad, was something you manifested yourself. Those who keep thinking of their past do nothing but prolong their historical experiences. If you desire a different tomorrow, you need to think of something different today. Note: I did not say, “do something different today"” I said, “think”!! Our thoughts are the keys to all that unfolds for us in our future.
People of today may not be able to appreciate the struggles of yesterday. It is also a fact that you can never sell your past to get success in the present. At best, you may be able to trade your past in exchange for some goodwill. However, when you aspire for full-blown success, you need to eject yourself out of the history and get potentially placed as a currency of future relevance!
So, from today onwards, stop making such statements:
- I was one of the best … till some time back
- I had a devastating childhood.
- I have made these compromises and sacrifices …
- My past was full of trauma…
- You don’t know what all I have gone through…
- I struggled hard to reach this place
In place of the above statements, just say (and think) these words: I am optimistic about my future. I love living life enthusiastically. When you think these thoughts, you allow a lot of success and happiness to welcome in your future.
Do contact me in case you have any career queries.
Dr. Ajit Varwandkar is the Director of myaglakadam.com. He is a leading career counselor and can be contacted on 9826132972 or email him at email@example.com
This column was originally published by the author in The Times of India