Author: Dr. Ajit Varwandkar
Friends, we rarely get to realise the speed of time! Almost five months into the new year, 2022 has already passed by! The way days and months fly, our life would advance much ahead in a blink!
When we meet some senior citizens, they often reflect on regrets like ‘Only if I had done this or not done that’ etc. The secret to these regrets is that most of those are not big things! It’s only about small ones to achieve, and all it takes is an extra initiative to begin. With this intent, I propose a collection of ten unique habits that will keep most of the regrets away when practised as a part of our daily lives.
Here are those:
- Do not say yes, when you want to say no, but better learn to say no in such a manner that the receiver of rejection does not experience the prick! Why not start experimenting with this idea and evolve a method of saying NO while making the other person nodding in yes! Yes, it is easier said than done but not impossible.
- Say not to worry – Tons of scriptures around the universe has been telling us one thing loud and clear – “Worry will not solve your problems!” Yet, the majority of us do not accept this reality. A slightest of non-conformity and worry seeps in. Anxiety not only kills joy but also invites fear and poor health. It is like slow poison. Practice the art of not worrying, whatever may be the situation.
- Read and listen to at least one inspirational post/book or post every day. Even if it is at the cost of repetition, this habit re-fuels you with hope and encouragement. The Challenges of life are far and many. No one may have a perfect ride. The constant hammering of positive thoughts keeps one empowered consistently. Note: Always avoid reading meaningless and purposeless news.
- Learn to take charge of your past. Many people carry the baggage of a tragic past into every moment of their present and thus ruin their future. Do not get into the habit of playing a victim. Never speak such statements: “I would have been better today, only if….” Take responsibility for every step you took in your past; when you do so, your future flourishes like a lovely flower.
- Food and nap are the secrets to happy and successful people. Eat good food, home-cooked as far as possible. Eat food on time – never stretch your work zone beyond your hunger.Eat just less than your need. That works wonder. Drink water frequently; believe me, water is the best medicine for most of our human illnesses. Sleep well. Many people feel guilty about getting an afternoon siesta or giving their body a well-deserved eight-hour rest. Not fair, be unapologetic about it. Build this habit.
- Take a break from your active professional engagement over smartphones and laptops at least three hours before you end your day. These three hours could be the mind maintenance time for you, the phase when your subconscious gets ready for all that you need to achieve the next day.
- Have a relaxed weekend. Never carry your work home, at least not on your Sundays.
- Many of us are experts in creating “to-do lists” I suggest you build the habit of the “I did it list”. This habit helps to release motivational hormones in our bodies. Before you review the to-do list, make it a habit to self appreciate yourself by going through the “I did it list”.
- If you love music, Spend at least thirty minutes relishing it every day. If you are not a music lover, start loving it. Music is a wonderful enhancer of productivity and peace.
- Spot negative people and get away from them as soon as possible. At least do not get into arguments with them. Such people can do nothing good to you; they can only erode your happiness. Even if it amounts to sacrificing your ego or losing a point in a discussion – it is perfectly fine.
Do contact me in case you have any career queries.
Dr. Ajit Varwandkar is the Director of myaglakadam.com. He is a leading career counsellor and can be contacted on 9826132972 or email him at firstname.lastname@example.org
This column was originally published by the author in The Times of India