Author: Dr. Ajit Varwandkar

We all go through phases of life which create a lot of mental stress. It becomes challenging to maintain poise, especially when you expect an outcome that goes against your wish or when the results of any particular circumstances are potentially harmful to you.

Some such situations put us into a lot of turbulence. You would have experiences that these are the moments when you are desperate to get a turnaround. You know very well that what you expect has a minimal chance of happening. You become so restless that against all odds, you pray almighty to deliver a wishful change of situations.Such are situations when you make frantic efforts to set things right in the shortest possible time.Now, let me tell you a secret that you may not get a favourable outcome nine out of ten times in such turmoil. Not that there is no chance to amend the circumstances and make it easy. There is a way to come out victorious even during difficult times. When travelling through such demanding times, the winning door can open. However,it requires one to rest all emotions and embrace peace first for that to happen.

Just think of a person who may not have got to eat in the last one or two days. The fellow must be in the extremes of hunger. Suppose this person is an expert in the science of horticulture. Will you be able to have any fruitful discussions with him when he is under such severe situations? Obviously no. Only when he may have had his meals and belly satisfied he might get into the receptive mindset.           The receptivity of the subconscious mind matters.

Likewise, whenever you are under emotional distress and want a solution, you work against your wish. On the contrary, all you need to do is calm down your mind. When the thought tsunami recedes, fruitful ideas start coming to you. Manifestation happens when the human mind is fertile enough to nourish it.

When I share the above solution with people, the first rebuttal is about the impossibility of calming down the agitated mind. I tell people that it is necessary to tone down their anxiety and stress. I understand that a 180-degree shift in the state of mind may not be possible. However, it is a must to achieve it, even in stages.

Here I present a 4 step process to attract fruitful results when you are going through tough times:

Step 1: Accept Reality

Step 2: Distract for some time

Step 3: Simulate Positive emotions

Step4: Expect Miracles

Step 1: It is of utmost importance to get out of the “Why Me” syndrome. Accept the fact and wriggle out of the blame game and excuse finding habits. Thus you start opening doors for peace to precipitate inside.

Step 2: Constant gazing at the wall of no return will take you nowhere. Instead, it would be wise to change the topic of concern. Go out for a stroll, watch a movie, meet a friend, and eat some good food. Do whatever but do not think about the bothering situation for some time. Distract your mind.

Step 3: Extract your moments of happiness, peace or success from the past. Recall those emotions which made your life bliss and simulate those feelings. Relive those days. It works wonders and opens the doors of manifestation.

Step4: Expectation builds the space to accommodate results. Do not get entangled in the mesh of complex logic of reality. Whatever the circumstances, believe that the Universe has a secret way out for you. Your expectation of miracles will make it easy for the cherished destiny to arrive soon.

These four steps can always help you to attract happiness even when the goings are tough. Always believe that everything that happens to us always has something really positive and valuable for us. Sometimes the good in any situation gets camouflaged by complications and fear. Never worry. Use the four steps above to come out as a happy winner.

Do contact me in case you have any career queries.

Dr. Ajit Varwandkar is the Director of myaglakadam.com. He is a leading career counsellor and can be contacted on 9826132972 or email him at info@fsindia.in

This column was originally published by the author in The Times of India